Posts Tagged ‘Facebook’

Aug
23

Today marks the end of my self-imposed “digital sabbatical” and I thought I would take a moment to offer some impressions of my time away.

At a very high level, I have to say the time away from Facebook, Twitter and my online presence was quite refreshing. Even so, I found myself numerous times thinking “Ooh – I should tweet this” or “I should send this to my Facebook page.” I am pleased that I was able to stay away and resist the urge to fall back into the digital habit. I sincerely enjoyed the quiet and I very likely will look to continue constricting my online time – most especially with social networking sites. I am not going away. However, I do not want to fall right back into the same time-killing habits.

Now some confessions…

I did peek-in on Facebook and Twitter a time or two (or three or four) while I was “away.” If you happened to stop by this blog, you may have noticed I kept my reading list current. I even did some back-end stuff with my other sites that would not be evident to passersby. And, I couldn’t resist posting a William Segal quote to my Solitary Zen Twitter feed on Tuesday of last week. (More on William Segal to come later.) I also spent more time than I had planned with e-mail.

Overall I was happy with my “sabbatical” and I would encourage others to do the same on a regular basis. I have learned a few things about my patterns and habits that will make my next digital sabbatical even more refreshing than this first one. I also found one or two things that were unexpected black holes of time and energy. I have taken the first steps to correcting those as well.

I also came away with a clearer picture of what I want to include in my online presence and those things better left to the real world or tucked safely away inside my head. Not much will change in this space. However, I will be refining the content areas and making some minor adjustments in the days to come. As a firm believer in transparency and full disclosure, I will provide updates as this space evolves.

As always, I thank you for your continued interest in – and support of – my personal and creative work.

Cheers!

Jul
22

In an effort to recalibrate several aspects of my personal, creative and professional life, I have decided to take a “digital sabbatical” starting at 12:01AM Saturday July 24, 2010 and running through 12:01AM Monday August 23, 2010.

During this time, I will not be updating Twitter, Facebook, my blog or the Solitary Zen site. E-mail will be checked and answered very sparingly – so sparingly that I wouldn’t recommend anyone count on it as a way of reaching me. My cell will remain on during this period. Calls and texts are welcomed. If you have my digits, use them.

In those 28+ days I will be researching and note-taking for my writing projects, doing a much-needed clean-up and rearrangement of the townhouse, as well as getting my creative space/office put back together. I will be playing, writing and recording music. I will be reading, meditating and trying to see into the future – but not too far ahead. I will be cooking. I will be walking and hiking. I will be taking pictures. I will be working.

See you on the other side!

May
23
May
20

On Monday night I spent a little bit of time weeding my Facebook page. I don’t mean trimming friends, but “unliking” every page for which I’d previously been a “fan.” I also deleted every single wall post and deleted all “tagged” instances on images and notes for folks who no longer have access to my Facebook page. Given that I am only a casual user, I was surprised by how many instances I found. The reasoning for this massive pruning should be fairly obvious in light of recent liberties being taken by Facebook with personal user information.

I haven’t yet made the decision to deactivate my account. (You know you can never really “delete” it, don’t you?) That point may be on the horizon, but for now I will make a point of being especially conservative in what I post there. There are a few dear friends on Facebook with whom I fear I would lose touch if I were to deactivate my account. So, for now, I’m still on Facebook. However, the clock may be ticking.

The bigger issue I have is in Facebook’s efforts to monetize every aspect of our personal, professional and private lives. “Targeted” banner ads on every page and the latest endeavors to mine your browsing preferences beyond Facebook can only mean more blatant misuses of user information in the future. Obviously Facebook is not alone in their efforts to squeeze dollars out of your every keystroke. However, we do still have choices and I am dead-set against third-parties making money from my casual Internet usage.

In his book In Persuasion Nation, George Saunders presents us with a world in which we are bombarded with minute-by-minute advertising and influence as due course in our daily lives and as our patriotic duty. In his short story Jon, orphans are sold to market research firms and treated like athletic superstars – complete with trading cards. Their job is to be “Tastemakers and Trendsetters” and their minds are implanted with memories of fake family and friends. The inevitable decline of the spirit and mind from this ceaseless consumerism is mitigated by regular doses of licensed, marketed mood-elevating chemistries.

Saunders’ writing is filled with sardonic wit and a liberal splash of hyperbole. However, it is a testament to the absurdity of our modern culture that it’s not much of a leap from the fictional world of George Saunders and our real world of “recommended if you like” advertising, Red Bull and Rock Star “energy enhancers” and modern television and media that serve no purpose beyond product placement and advertising. Sadly, we may be much closer than we think to a real-life “Truman Show” in which an American child is “adopted” by a major corporation and his or her life played out on world-wide television and the Internet.

And so, I find myself drastically pulling back from any form of media that unduly pushes this gorilla marketing concept into my life or even hints at disseminating my personal information or preferences to anyone at any time without my express consent and knowledge. As you can imagine, the real estate for these more reputable third-party sites and activities is getting smaller by the hour.

I may soon find myself in a space where I only feel comfortable placing my content within sites that I wholly own and can control. This is no guarantee that my content and information won’t propagate without my consent or knowledge. However, it does seem to be the lesser of all evils regarding an online presence.

May
02

I recently came across this note from my Facebook account. I’d not looked at it in some time and actually found it quite interesting. For your reading pleasure, 25 Random Things About Me.

  1. I am very nearly pathologically shy yet known to be a good public speaker.
  2. I was holding my father’s hand when he died.
  3. I have been known to be intuitive to the point of seriously freaking people out.
  4. I can count the number of alcoholic drinks I’ve had in the past decade on one hand and still have a finger or two (and maybe a thumb) left over.
  5. Of the hundreds of concerts I’ve attended and of the nearly one thousand live shows I’ve performed, the most moving show I’ve ever seen was Luka Bloom at The Club Cafe in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania on Tuesday April 11, 2006.
  6. I hate watching television, but I am powerless to walk away from a Sunday marathon of Mythbusters.
  7. As an adolescent and young adult I never cared for classical music. Now, it very nearly makes up half of my music collection.
  8. I have three novels in various states of disrepair.
  9. Of me and my five closest high school friends, I am the only one not dead or in prison.
  10. I wanted to be a police officer when I grew up. I studied psychology and criminal justice my first semester in college. Then, I realized everybody else in the CJ program was an ex-military, Type-A asshole who just wanted a reason to carry a gun and beat people. I switched to English and Political Science.
  11. I don’t think I’ve ever made a good first impression.
  12. I am proudest of the things no one knows about.
  13. When I was a kid I used to love to eat ketchup sandwiches. Bread and ketchup. I tried it as an adult several years ago and very nearly puked.
  14. I didn’t take my first steps until I was almost three years-old. My parents were told if I didn’t wear corrective shoes and go through extensive therapy, I would be unable to walk by the time I was a teen. I never had the therapy and they never bought me the shoes.
  15. There have been three specific moments in my life thus far wherein I was moments away from dying.
  16. My two favorite authors are Kazuo Ishiguro and Haruki Murakami. While both are Japanese, Ishiguro is actually considered a British author. Born in Japan, his family moved to England when he was 6 years-old. Ishiguro and Murakami have drastically different styles, yet each speaks to me in very specific ways.
  17. If reincarnation is possible, I think I was from the Far East in a past life.
  18. In many ways I have the patience of a five year-old child on Christmas morning.
  19. I have a scar on my forehead from where my older brother punched me while wearing a rather large, ugly man-ring. I believe my taunting about the same man-ring may have prompted the beating.
  20. The last time I saw my older brother in person was the day before I graduated high school in 1983. I have only spoken to him twice since then. Once when I called to tell him our father was dying in the hospital and the second – and last – time when I called to tell him our father had died. He told me he couldn’t afford to fly from the West Coast for the funeral. It turned out he had a Las Vegas trip planned and didn’t want to be bothered. It’s been twenty-two years since that last phone call. I wouldn’t know the man if he passed me on the street.
  21. My older sister and I attended our first church service because they were giving away free kites. We never went back. I’ve since been to services in an unusually large number of churches and synagogues – mainly with friends and/or past girlfriends/spouses. I maintain a rather unique perspective on religion and spirituality that I have never managed to fully explain to anyone.
  22. I have a penchant for writing supplies. My desk drawers are overflowing with notebooks, pens, pencils, Sharpie’s, etc. Oddly enough, a clean, blank page can be almost paralyzing to me at times.
  23. I have always preferred cats over dogs. People find this suspicious.
  24. I very rarely discuss politics because even those with the best intentions can rarely do anything more than parrot back the same tired hyperbole of their favorite screeching head.
  25. This was amazingly more difficult than I ever would have thought.